Swagger with grace

Tania

When I first started my career, I learned a very valuable lesson about working with difficult youth. I was taught that I should think about youth like an ATM machine and I should never try to take out more than I put in. By far that has been the best lesson that I learned about my work and oddly about any relationship, especially those annoyingly intense intimate ones.

Always Against the Odds

First deficit, I am a woman who loves to take care of people. Second, I am independent and like to do things for myself. Third, I can spend years in the emotional deprivation zone and function just fine. Hell, I was married in one for 16 years. So interestingly enough it is quite easy for someone like me to become more like an emotional soup kitchen for people who can’t or won’t invest anything into what I need or want and that means disaster eventually.

Tania

As months pass, I am finally getting comfortable with the idea of living in middle class suburbia. I have to say that it has not been without its challenges in fact one polite woman asked me very indirectly if all my children had the same father (WTF?). After I bought my house I told my Mom that I was going to put a huge sign on my front lawn that said “Thanks to all my baby daddies, for making my dreams come true” My Mom gave me the “Too far” look and we laughed it off.

Men In Blue

Tania

If you have been a regular reader of my blogs, then you would see a consistent pattern in my stories. I have a love for my children that runs through my blood and I will always maintain that they are the only right thing that I have done in my life, all the other things that I have done for others is merely a by-product of knowing that my children are watching me to see how they should feel, think, and act when they are alone in the world. So it’s no shocker to me, but it might be to others that one my wedding day the first toast we gave was to my husband’s Godwife. Yes, I said it I handpicked a woman that I asked to marry him if I died and she was the first person we toasted at our wedding.

She Shines The Brightest

Tania

It doesn’t matter who you are or what you believe in or even how you intend your words to be heard, your truth will always be interpreted and often misinterpreted by the way the words you speak were experienced by others in their past. And at this point in my life, I am so damn tired of fighting the legacy of words spoken by the idiots who came before me. You see, we often speak the same language but have very different INTENTIONS behind why we choose our words and our actions. But it takes so much energy and careful planning to PROVE that what you are saying is means something totally different that how the words have been spoken in the past.

The Legacy of Idiots